It’s a question I hadn’t considered till I saw the recent story of a Mum in the US who has been taken to court for taking her daughter to a Pink concert!
Are we making appropriate choices as Mum’s when we take our kids to rock concerts where the lyrics are explicit and the dancing is highly suggestive? Although in this case the New Jersey Judge ruled in favour of the Mum’s decision, it raises the question of when we feel it’s right to expose our emerging teens to the raunchier side of music.
What do You Remember About Your First Concert?
My first and only concert was in 1989 when I saw REM live on their Uk tour when I was 17. I don’t remember how my Mum felt about me going, but I do know that if she had tried to stop me then it would have been even more exciting to rebel against her!
What I do remember is
- feeling shocked by the sheer number of people who were crammed in the venue together
- feeling worried about being separated from my friends
- feeling nervous about of being crushed and trampled by the crowd
I don’t remember loving the experience, and that is because I was totally unprepared for the magnitude of the event. I had never been exposed during my family life to anything like a rock concert and maybe if I had I would have been more relaxed and able to enjoy it.
How Can You Prepare Your Children For Their 1st Concert?
Maria Mora has some great ideas in her article School of Rock. Her suggestion to chaperone their first few concert experiences is a great idea, and one that may have a pay-off for you too!
As a Mum for many years you’ve been doing everything for your kids, driving them to sports practice, cheering from the sidelines come rain or shine, coordinating sleepovers, birthdays and cinema outings.
But, at last, something exciting is on the list of ‘Things-I-Do-For-My-Kids’…you get to go to a concert!
Who you get to see is really about how convincing you can be, but a word of warning, our kids are very savvy at persuasive arguments (thanks Naplan) so be prepared!
Some pre-concert discussions should include:
- what to expect in-terms of behaviour from adults attending the concert (discuss what it looks like when adults let out their inner wild-child)
- strategies for re-grouping if you get separated (choose a central landmark to meet at if you are separated, identify staff and officials who can assist and put mobile phones on vibrate and keep them in your pocket)
- what the budget will allow for purchasing merchandise at the concert to avoid disappointment on the night
- what’s expected in the way of singalongs (get the whole family to learn the songs, if nothing else it will be an embarrassing story for them to recount later in life!)
I’ve got my eye on some Robbie William’s tickets for October…let the education begin!
I’d love to know if your teen has been to their first concert yet.
Do you have anything to add to the list of things we can do to prepare our kids for this experience?